Bribery vs Encouragement

Bribery is external motivation often based only upon achieving what the briber wants. Children (and adults) tend to accommodate to bribery and as time passes, greater and greater rewards must be promised to achieve the same results. Encouragement builds self-motivation, and the focus is based upon the level of an individual's effort without comparison's to others. More...

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"Self-esteem is the overall judgment of self...a sense of self-respect and self-worth...this is the core of the child's personality and determines the use he makes of his life." Alfred Adler
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All misbehavior is your child trying to communicate something to you More...

Give your family the best gift of all!!

There is nothing better for your family than peace in the home. All relationships are based upon two key ingredients, mutual trust and mutual respect.

Raising children is hard to do sometimes. Raising happy, self-motivated, respectful, self-reliant, self-confident, self-disciplined, helpful and loving children is even harder.

Finding time for yourself, feeling confident in your efforts and getting consistent results sometimes sounds like wishful thinking. But there are tools, skills, and techniques that can help you to achieve all these goals.

Enroll in the Redirecting Children's Behavior™ course, available to help you and your family. More...

The Christmas Blues
In many homes this year the Christmas Blues may be more strongly felt than in past years. The economy has taken a big bite out of many families Christmas budgets...and their food budgets too. The stress and worry felt by parents may be being felt by the children too.

Parents may think that they are doing a great job of hiding the economic problems, and the stressing you are feeling...and they may be. But by the time most children are older than six or seven, they are very often able to tell that things are just not right. It is sometimes a good idea to share a little of the reality to the children and allow them to participate in family planing sessions to decide how much should be spent on gifts and to help figure out how to save money.

Smaller children are often too small to really understand family finances, but will still want to know why mommy and daddy are unhappy. They need to know that the problems are not their fault, and that you love them and they don't need to worry.

It's a great time to focus on the real reason for the season. For Christians the season is about the celebration of the birth of Christ. For other religions there are other traditions and religious beliefs. But in none of the various faiths, is the purpose and meaning of the Christmas holiday season tied to how much you can give or get . More...